Am I with a right partner?

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" the author then noticed that there was a large man sitting next toher so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, sheanswered "How do you know?" Let me answer this question because the chancesare good that it's weighing on your mind replied the author. Here's theanswer.
Every relationship has a cycle...In the beginning; you fall in love withyour partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like theiridiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completelynatural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That'swhy it's called "falling" in love.
People in love sometimes say, "I was swept of my feet." Picture theexpression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing,and then something happened TO YOU. Falling in love is a passive andspontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together,the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship.Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touchis not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies,instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary withevery relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between theinitial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angrysubsequent stage. At this point, you and/or your partner might startasking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria ofthe love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someoneelse. This is when relationships breakdown.
The key to succeeding in a relationship is not finding the right person;it's learning to love the person you found.
People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside forfulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby,a friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to thisdilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. I'm notsaying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. AndTEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a fewyears later. Because (listen carefully to this): The key to succeeding in arelationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love theperson you found.
SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have towork on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And mostimportantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make itwork. Make no mistake about it. Love is NOT a mystery. There are specificthings you can do (with or without your partner). Just as there arephysical laws of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws forrelationships. If you know and apply these laws, the results arepredictable. Love is therefore a "decision". Not just a feeling.
Remember this always: God determines who walks into your life. It is up toyou to decide who you let walk away, who you let stay, and who you refuseto let GO!!